My life in Thailand from April 1977 to
February 1980
April 1977, I was only 20 years old and in the last year of my secondary
education. There was only one more month to the end of the fiscal school year,
and there wasn’t any school two days prior, because of Lao New Year
(Songkane). That same day a friend of mine, Phoxay, came to me with a
relatively strange question. He asked me to help him escape to a refugee camp
in Thailand. I was sort of confused, there were a lot of different things
going through my head, but whatever I wanted to say, it couldn’t be said there
because of the dozens of people surrounding us might have overheard. See back
then if the authorities somehow discovered that you were planning to flee or
were helping someone escape you would have been killed immediately.
I
looked into his eyes carefully and closely, I could tell that he truly meant
what he said, but I had never ever even imagined about leaving my homeland
before then. Laos was my home--I had lived there, I had loved there--I had
spent my entire childhood there, and I had planned on spending my entire
manhood there, as well. Laos was my life, I didn’t know what I could do
without it. I loved Laos--I loved living in Laos--I loved the simple life I
led in Laos. As a young man, I spent all of my time going to school, playing
my guitar, and having fun with all my friends, I paid no attention to
government and politics, I could care less about what kind of government or
ruler I lived under. I was just a stupid kid, who thought he knew everything
about the world, when in truth I knew nothing about the real world, I just
liked playing my guitar and being a kid.
That night I was sitting alone in playing my guitar when suddenly my friend
burst into the room. He sat down beside me and I started to play again, he had
heard the tune before and he started to sing along with me. I just sat there
thinking when suddenly he asked me the same question again, he said, “My
friend, since your village sits right on the bank of Mekong River, would you
please take me there and help me escape?” He persisted to ask me and I still
said nothing. I knew that if I didn’t help him he would get caught and would
definitely be killed, so after much consideration and persuasion it didn’t take
long before I said “Yes, my friend I will help you but just wait until the day
off first.”
From that night on, I couldn’t get any sleep at all. I just kept contemplating
the many different things that might have happened to us, many of which were
different worse -case scenarios in which we were found, captured, and killed.
I really hoped that I wouldn’t live to regret those words I uttered to my
friend, but I did hope to live. When it really came down to it, deep down I
didn’t think I could go through with it, I would miss my family and my
girlfriend entirely too much. What would I do to survive in Thailand?
Different questions kept popping inside my head, one after another.
This was it, the day had finally arrived, we were going to make our great
escape. It was April 13th and everyone was ordered to sign out of
the dormitories. I went to my friend’s room and waited for him so we could
leave together. We stayed close as we walked about an arm’s length apart off
the campus smoothly. Neither of us spoke a word, we supposed to wait for the
bus to go to the city but decided to walk instead. We didn’t pack much at all
because it would be too much weight to carry for 7 km. That night we stayed
at his brother’s house so we could catch a bus to my village the next day.
I
still couldn’t sleep at all, so I grabbed my guitar and started to play some
sad songs that I knew. We snuck out early the next morning, and headed for bus
stop. It was a bit puzzling, there wasn’t a bus in sight anywhere. I glanced
around and saw a small group of people a few yards away, I approached them and
asked them about the bus situation. From what I gathered, some government
officials postponed any type of bus transportation for the remainder of the Lao
New Year celebration.
I
could tell by the way he walked that my friend was very disappointed. I,
myself, was relieved particularly. I tried to look as sad as possible but it
was extremely difficult because of the feelings of comfort and ease I was experiencing.
On the way back, we stumbled onto another friend of ours. We told him our
problem and he told us that he knew one bus would go that way without
authorization because his wife was expecting to deliver her baby sometime that
day, so he invited us to join him.
Luckily we passed the city limits without any trouble from the authorities. I
couldn’t that we actually made it on the bus, are planning was running pretty
smooth so far. While we were on the bus, I kept praying for our safety and wishing
the best for my friend. We were about halfway when all of a sudden I heard a
loud boom. When I took a look outside, sure enough there were about 4-5
guerillas lined up in front of our bus blockading us with their weapons.
Then they came closer to the bus and ordered the driver to take the bus into
the woods, I wasn’t totally sure what they were going to do. The bus stopped
abruptly by the order of one of the guerrillas, all of us were then commanded
to get off. They demanded that we sat looking downward, with our heads in
between our knees. Without them knowing, I took a quick glance up, and I saw
them ravaging through all of our possessions, someone took my backpack. I was
disgusted because almost all of my life was packed away in that one small bag;
my books, my clothes, and pictures of my family and friends.
One of the guerillas saw me and demanded that I look down otherwise he would
shoot me. I looked at him and my bag sorrowfully, but abided by his command.
He sat there crouching for almost an hour before they released us. As soon as
we had left, the women who were on the bus began to cry and whimper, I couldn’t
blame them at all. None of us no longer had anything to our names, the
soldiers had stripped us of all our belongings, even the jewelry that we wore
was taken away from us.
My
friend and I walked the rest of the day, we luckily reached my village before
nightfall. For the short time we were there, my activity with my family was
limited, I didn’t want my family, especially my parents to know what we had
been through and what we were going to go through. Early the next morning my
parents left home and headed for our fruit farm at the Mekong Riverbank, my
little sister proceeded to ask me dozens of questions. From what she said , I
think she knew we were trying to escape.
I
didn’t want to involve her so, I only said, “I will tell you all later”. I
couldn’t even muster up the courage to tell my parents about our plan in my
dreams, how could now. Later that morning, my little sister left home to take
food to our parents. I grabbed a bucket to put some of my sister’s dirty
clothes in it and headed to the Mekong River. Many of the villagers asked me
where we were headed, I told them that we were going to wash our clothes in the
river. I hated lying to my friends and people I respected, but it was all that
I could do.
We
started looking for my dad’s canoe as soon as we arrived at the Mekong River,
we found it floating far off to our west attached to the dock. There were
many people working and doing something around the bank where we got the canoe,
some inquired about where we were going. I told them we were going to my
parents’ fruit farm, I was sure they wouldn’t believe me though--I was a very
bad liar. We started paddling the canoe up north. When we got to my parents’
farm, we headed east towards Thailand. Fortunately, we passed the water line
border safe and sound.
We
stopped at a small rocky island before we got to the Thai riverbank. We went
inside a small cave and went over our plan again a few more times, I told my
friend that we couldn’t go back to Laos again unless we were caught and
deported back by Thai authorities. Together we prayed for our safety.
Suddenly I felt a sharp pain in my back, I was stung by a wasp. I took it as a
sign, I have always believed that the wasp brings me good luck. So I told my
friend if we went across now, we wouldn’t get caught.
He
went with my feeling and did as I said, we got back on the canoe and headed for
the Thai Riverbank. When we got to the riverbank, I met two of my Thai cousins
who just came back from an afternoon of fishing. They of course asked, “Are
you escaping from Laos?” I replied, “Yes”. They then led us to their village,
we hurried because if we were caught each of us would have been persecuted—not
just my friend and myself.
We hid in my cousins’ home and had dinner there also. During dinner, my
cousins asked me if I knew what we were going to do next. I told him that I
didn’t have clue, but we would think it over that night. I starting to get
worried, because I just realized we had no money, transportation, or shelter to
help us along. I was beginning to know the true meaning of being an adult, my
life was in my own hands now. When the morning came, we ate breakfast and told
my cousins that we were going to leave for the city of Ubon. They asked me
what we were going to do in the city. I said, “I don’t know”.
Eventhough
my father was originally from Thailand but I was born and raised in Laos. So,
officially I wasn’t Thai citizen but instead I was a political asylum refugee
or an Illigal alien in Thailand. The most important question I asked myself
was “WHAT I GONNA DO TO SURVIVE?”
Before we took off, one of my cousins told me about a job at a lumberyard in
Amphur Amnatjareun. When we left, we tried to look inconspicuous because we
risked being seen and caught by Thai deportation officials.
We got
on a bus and headed for Amphur Amnatjareun. As soon as we walked into the mill
area, we were surprisingly greeted by Lao workers whom we knew. I told them
that we were looking for a job there.
They led us to their managers and we got ourselves our first jobs in Thailand.
Our duties were to put the cut--off log in the two--wheeled cart and dump them
into a big pile outside the mill. Our shift started at 4:00 in the afternoon
and ended at around 2:00 in the morning. Most of the time it was dark and
raining, yet we had to work without any covering except for our regular work
clothes. I remember one time when one of the wheels was blocked by a falling
log, the whole cart stopped suddenly and jerked my body. It threw me down on
my butt, I felt as though I broke a rib or something of that nature. The whole
experience jogged memories of my simple life in Laos, now I was working hard
labor--which I had never done in entire life. I really missed my family and
friends, I can’t believe I didn’t even say goodbye to them when I had the
chance.
After dumping that cart, I slowly got back to the sawing area. A friend of
mine asked me if I was crying, I of course denied it like a man. I told him
that the drop of rain got in my eyes and it stung bad. I had a high fever the
next morning but it didn’t stop me from working. We worked there for two
grueling months, when out of the blue, I was told that Thai authorities would
catch us if we didn’t leave in a day or two. We immediately took a bus out of
Amnatjareun, but this time we got off at my father’s friend’s village.
A
villager who had heard of him led us to his house to meet him. His wife and
himself still remembered me from the last time they visited Laos four years
ago. They asked me what I was doing in Thailand, and after my answer they
immediately followed their question with, “Do you have any idea how to get to
the refugee camp?” I told them “I don’t know” as usual. A mutual friend of
suggested to go to Bangkok to get a job. We had both heard some good things
about Bangkok so we accepted. Since we didn’t have the proper identification
to be employed there, she promised she would arrange to obtain some forged
documents for us. We stayed in that village for only one night.
When we received our identification we left that morning on a Bus to Bangkok.
As soon as we arrived in Bangkok, that lady took us to the Temporary Job
Service place. We waited there all day for an employer to pick us and give us
a job. Finally a Thai--Chinese couple drove up and took us to a place that was
looking for male workers. The officer there pointed at us and sure enough we
got a job.
We
thanked the lady who helped us to Bangkok and found us a job, even though she
did for a commission. She got paid and then said good-bye to us and went back
to Isaan. That Thai--Chinese couple drove us to their place, and explained our
job duties to us. My job was doorman and my friend’s job was appointed
something like janitorial work. It was funny because we both couldn’t talk
Thai, I knew some but it was accompanied by a thick Lao accent. One month in
Bangkok, and we didn’t get to go anywhere except for our job. One day, I
helped my friend clean the living room and I found a guitar standing on the
corner. After we finished cleaning I grabbed the guitar and started playing
and was immediately followed by my friend’s singing, we didn’t even notice our
boss’s daughter standing I the doorway staring at us.
She had a surprised look on her face as she stomped towards us. She questioned
our true identities, she knew something wasn’t right by the way we sang. On
our applications, it said we only had a fourth grade elementary education—but
we were singing French and English. My friend’s face gave a guilty look and he
completely shut up. I couldn’t lie any more, so I told her the truth; I said
that we were from Laos and were students before we had escaped, we sometimes
played in our school band, and we studied both French and English. She told
me that she was a student at Chulalongkorn University and had problems with
French. She asked me if I could help her, I agreed if she wouldn’t tell anyone
who we really were.
We had
worked there for over a month, and my friend and I were still not paid. A
couple days later, we were called into the boss’s office, he told us they were
having financial trouble. Even though our salary was only 400 baht (about $10
U.S. now) per month, we still needed some money to help us with food and other
basic supplies. I was so sick the next day and I couldn’t get out of bed, my
friend asked the boss’s wife to take me to the hospital. First she didn’t
want to do so, but she came by our room and saw me in really bad shape. She
took me to Chula Hospital and did all the paper work for me. She left me there
with total strangers. The doctor finally called me in tested me.
I
found out I had an abscess tonsil and it had to be removed. I told him to go
ahead and do what he had to do. They sent me in a different room for special
treatment, it took them about two hours to finish the surgery. After they were
removed I waited in the waiting room for almost four hours before my boss’s
wife picked me up, all they gave me was a bottle of Listerine. When she
finally came, it was dark in the evening. That night my friend and I were
talking about going back to Isaan without getting paid. Luckily, in that
house, there was a boy from Isaan who was hired to be his jockey (horse rider).
His name was Noknoy, he told us that we weren’t going to get paid because they
spent all of their money on horse racing, they also found out that we were Lao
and they would take advantage of us. I told him that we didn’t have any money
left and didn’t know the way to go home. That boy was really nice and promised
us he’d take care of the whole thing for us.
When nobody was home he called a taxi for us to go to the bus station and gave
us some expense money. He told us to not even think about paying him back, he
just wanted to help us. He also told us not to come back to Bangkok again
because people would easily take advantage of us, we were so grateful to him.
We arrived at the village on the next day. People gathered around us and asked
us many questions. All I could tell them was “Bangkok sucks!” We stayed in
that village a few days and then my friend wanted to go back to Amnatjareun to
work in that lumberyard again. I told him if he wanted to go, he would have to
go alone.
I
said I had to recover from my sickness first. Since we both had only 200 baht
(about $5 now) left, I told him to go ahead take all the money and go to
Amnatjareun. I promised to follow him whenever I could go. It was a sad
moment when we left each other since we had been through so much together. I
never saw him again after that day. I stayed in that village for a few more
days and then the people I was staying with told me to go help their son in the
rice paddies in a different village. Their other son took me there. I had
never been to that village before and I had never worked in a rice paddy. The
family I stayed with welcomed me because they had no son. That was the first
time I felt like I actually belonged in Thailand.
First they had fun teaching me how to work in the rice paddy. It took me a
while to get hold of all the procedures. It was really hard work but everybody
in that family was kind and nice to me. It only took us a few weeks to finish
planting. Then we had a break from it for a few months. When they finished
the planting part, the whole village got together to practice the Isaan
traditional folk song (Mhor Lam). I watched them practice every night. Back
then, they didn’t even have any instruments but a drum set. One night after
they were finished dancing, I asked them why didn’t they have more
instruments; such as, a solo guitar, a keyboard, and a bass guitar? They told
me that they didn’t know how to play those instruments. I told them I knew how
to play and I would teach them.
They all asked me the same question, “Do you really know how to play them?” I
said, “Yes.” The next day they took me to another village, it took us about
four hours on the bicycle to get there. They heard about one teacher in that
village who wanted to sell his instruments. They bought the instruments that I
wanted and brought them back with us on the same day. That night the whole
village came to see me play Thai songs on the guitar.
Because of that one night I became extremely popular among the native
villagers, I got to know more people and made a lot of good friends, they even
tried to get me a girlfriend. The neighboring village knew my name too. I met
a lot of different girls too. I turned down marriage proposals because I
didn’t want to become a rice farmer for the rest to my life. I began to enjoy
the adventurous life in Thailand. When Isaan festival season was over, I had
friends asking me to go to Bangkok with them. I took another chance, I went to
Bangkok with them and got a job in a noodle factory (Keuay Tieo).
I
enjoyed working there because I got to meet many people from all over Isaan.
It took me a month to save enough to buy myself a cheap guitar. One day after
work, I sat down by myself and played French and English songs. A brother of
the company’s owner walked by and stopped in front of me. I had to stop
playing because I didn’t want him to know and I could play French songs. He
asked me not to stop and sat next to me, I played one song after another for
him. He then asked me if I wanted to see his expensive guitar. He asked me to
play for him again, after I met him I was promoted to an easier job, delivering
the noodles around town. Now I got to see even more of Bangkok City. That guy
took me everywhere on his motorcycle. The rainy season came again and friends
of mine from the village asked me to go back with them, which I did. My life
started getting better gradually.
Many families with daughters tried to get me to marry their kids and become a
Thai citizen. I turned down all proposals, because I didn’t want to become a
rice farmer forever. We had the same routine as the year before. When planting
season was over, we got together to practice, we had a band now. I stayed in
that village until the month of June of 1979. One of my cousins who was
staying in a refugee camp came to see me with family news. My sister’s family
escaped to Thailand and entered the camp too. I had to go see them and help
them anyway I could. It was a really sad moment for all villagers and me. It
was so hard for me to say good-bye to them and the band that I started up. One
good thing was that I taught many people how to play the guitar. Some of them
were good enough to take over my place as the bandleader. Well, I had to do
what I had to do. I finally had to leave all of my friends and people who have
always been good to me.
The good thing was I became really familiar with that region, so I could go
back and forth anytime I wanted to go visit them. We arrived at the camp that
day. It was a huge camp for all Lao refugees. It sure was a surprise for me
because when I got in the camp, I saw all of my long lost friends. I’ve never
thought I would see them again. Now I knew exactly where I belonged.
Since that day, I stayed in the camp with my sister’s family. While I was in
the camp, I volunteered as the interpreter and opened up Basic English class to
Lao people who needed to learn to settle in the third countries, e.g. USA,
Canada, Australia and Germany. I met many Lao and Thai girls who talked to me
about family life (married life) but I just refused. It wasn’t because I
didn’t like them or anything like that, but I just wasn’t ready to have anymore
responsibility just yet. Back then, I was only 22 years old. I left refugee
camp and the country of Thailand and headed for the United States of America in
the middle of February 1980.
I
spent two and a half years in Thailand, I had been through a lot stuffs. I had
experienced happiness, sadness, love, and hate. That was the two and half
years of my life that I have never forgotten.